Dear Annie: My husband says I ruined his life by moving closer to our grandchild

To Annie, please:

I’m having trouble deciding how to respond to this circumstance. After forty-four years of marriage, my husband and I have a son who is married and a grandchild. In order to be near our grandchild, we made the decision five years ago to relocate closer to our son’s family. My spouse, however, tells me once or twice a year that I destroyed his life by making him relocate. He calls me selfish for wanting to spend more time with our grandchild.

In addition, my husband has made it very apparent to me that he despises our son’s mother-in-law. If she will be present, he won’t go to holiday feasts. He has feelings for her mother, but our daughter-in-law doesn’t know it. Because of this circumstance, I’m always concerned about whether my husband will go to our grandson’s sporting events or activities if the other grandmother is there.

The strain of handling this continuing dispute has worn me out. I’ve gotten to the point where I’m thinking of getting a divorce because I can’t stand to live with this ongoing stress and suffering.

I would be very grateful for any guidance you could provide. Contemplating Divorce

To Thinking:

I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this. You seem to have had a significant emotional weight for a while. You deserve to have a peaceful and contented life because your feelings are important. Talk to your husband honestly about how you’re feeling.

To address these problems together, look for a qualified marriage therapist as well. In a secure, encouraging environment, a reputable therapist can also assist you in exploring your emotions and choices. Whichever route you go on, know that you are not alone and that a better future is possible.

How Can My Cheating Partner Be Forgiven? is Annie Lane’s second anthology. Available in paperback and e-book formats, it includes popular essays about marriage, adultery, communication, and reconciliation. For additional information, go to http://www.creatorspublishing.com. For Annie Lane, send inquiries to [email protected].

The 2025Creators.com copyright

More Advice

• Dear Annie: I feel guilty for not answering the door, but I wasn t ready for company

• Dear Abby: My alcoholism led to infidelity and divorce after 11 years together

• Dear Abby: My mom won t acknowledge I m gay and her praise of homophobic politicians really hurts

• Dear Annie: At rock bottom after husband s lies and abandonment – where do I go?

• Dear Abby: I m struggling to find the right words when asked about my late sister

Note: Every piece of content is rigorously reviewed by our team of experienced writers and editors to ensure its accuracy. Our writers use credible sources and adhere to strict fact-checking protocols to verify all claims and data before publication. If an error is identified, we promptly correct it and strive for transparency in all updates, feel free to reach out to us via email. We appreciate your trust and support!