Dear Abby: Online porn is ruining my marriage. How do I stop?

Greetings, Abby

My wife and I have been wed for ten years. I have only ever dated one woman, and that is her. I still find myself chatting to ladies online, asking them for pictures, and seeing porn. I have no idea why I do this, and I don’t want to go any further in this direction. What would be the first thing I would do to demonstrate to my wife that I am serious about solving this major issue? IDENTIFIES A DIFFERENCE IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR SEES:

Telling your wife that you realize your online behavior has gone out of hand and that you are beginning to discuss it with a certified psychotherapist would be a great first step. To assist you break the habit, 12-step programs are now available online. I commend you for reaching out to me and taking the initial step.

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Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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