Dear Annie: I’m forever grateful to Al-Anon

To Annie, please:

Your recommendation of Al-Anon to your readers who are dealing with the terrible consequences of drinking is greatly appreciated. For me, this program has been a lifeline, providing a secure environment to sort through the uncertainty, suffering, and powerlessness that frequently accompany caring for someone who has alcoholism. Al-Anon is about changing the way we live, think, and love, not merely about coping.

I put a lot of effort into attempting to control the uncontrollable before I joined Al-Anon because I thought that my happiness depended on my loved one’s recovery. It was heartbreaking and draining. I was gently educated by the program that my happiness, tranquility, and peace are independent of the decisions made by others. Rather, they originate from within me.

I’ve gained the ability to let go of anger, irrational expectations, and the delusion of control thanks to Al-Anon’s knowledge. Whether or not my alcoholic loved one is drinking, I’ve discovered a new kind of love that is based on respect and compassion. That’s not to say it’s always simple, but it does mean that I have the resources I need to get through the challenging times without losing who I am.

The peace of mind I’ve had is incalculable. Despite the chaos and uncertainty around me, it has enabled me to find joy in my own life. I’ve discovered how to rely on a group of people who genuinely get what it’s like to walk this journey and to have faith in something bigger than myself. I will always be appreciative to Al-Anon. I highly recommend it if you’re having trouble. There is a way to achieve peace, and you are not alone. Love Al-Anon

To My Darling:

I appreciate your kind letter. I am so glad that you found so much perspective, freedom and comfort from Al-Anon, which, as you know, is an organization that I recommend regularly. They are great, and so are you! Thanks again for writing.

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