Dear Abby: Is he cheating or is he just a rotten husband?

Greetings, Abby

Soon, my spouse and I will commemorate our eleventh wedding anniversary. We have two kids and have been together since we were 19. We are currently in our mid-30s.

Hey Abby, My husband seems to be cheating on me, and I can’t get rid of the feeling. He has just wanted sex on his schedule for the last two years. He becomes irate and rude if he doesn’t receive it in his allotted time. I’ll hear about it for days if he doesn’t receive it at all that day.

Despite my deep affection for him, my husband is not a good father. When the kids are so happy to see him, embrace him, and play, it breaks my heart to watch him dismiss them. However, my spouse doesn’t play with kids, cuddle with them on sporadic days off, or just hang out with them. Seeing fathers play with their children and act silly for hours makes me envious. He worries about his job calls and works nonstop. I’ve always wished for a husband who would be an excellent father. I want to know if he is seeing someone else to satisfy his needs if he isn’t into our children, is constantly worried, isn’t playing with me in a non-sexual way anymore, and only wants sex. Wearing a new jersey, the heartbroken wife

Greetings, wife:

I don’t think a man who frequently wants to have sex with his wife is cheating, but there are certainly other problems in your marriage that need to be addressed. You mentioned that he is constantly worried and has trouble relating to the kids. Things could become better once you know why. You might be able to accomplish it with marriage counseling.

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