Greetings, Abby
Our son-in-law and daughter-in-law reside with us. She wants to modernize the cabinets at her own expense as she paints the interior of our 27-year-old home. Her father becomes irate and accuses her of attempting to take over his home before he passes away every time she makes an effort to improve the appearance. (This is untrue.) He claims that anyone would concur with him if you asked them. He’s wrong, in my opinion. How do we proceed? EMERGING IN INDIANA
DEAR SPRUCING UP:
Your spouse should control his temper if your daughter and her husband want to paint and install new cabinets solely in the part of the house they live in. Your husband’s rage might be understandable if your daughter is attempting to do more than that with the hope that she will eventually inherit the property. All of you are grownups. Find a way to talk about this and come to an agreement.
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