Dear Abby: Should I risk my friendship by confessing my crush on him?

Greetings, Abby

It’s been three years since I became a widow. I’ve been crushing on this man for a few years, but we’ve been friends for eight years. I don’t want to break up our friendship, but I’m not sure how to express my thoughts to him. How can I approach him without destroying our friendship? I’m feeling lost.

DEAR LOST:

Do you interact with this individual? Tell him how much you like him and how special he is to you the next time you go out together if you do. Inform him that you could have a crush on him if he responds favorably. Afterward, pay attention. I wouldn’t say that’s being overly direct, but you’ll know your crush isn’t reciprocated if he leaves. Nothing was gained or risked.

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