Dear Abby: His teeth are gross, but how to I tell him?

Greetings, Abby

I’ve been married to my spouse for 16 years, and we’ve been together for 22. He is my sunlight, my roses, and the joy of my life. He is an excellent father and a wonderful husband. I’m sure you’re wondering why I’m writing to you. His teeth are, well, repulsive. They are filthy, chipped, and discolored. He is getting over some concerns with his weight and self-esteem. I’m really happy of him since he’s lost a lot, but how can I put it? Well done! However, is there still a problem with you?

For the record, I don’t care about his weight. I always encouraged him to be healthy and strong enough to keep up with our children and stop using the CPAP machine, not to be skinny or muscular. He doesn’t have a problem with money or dental bills, but he would like to spend extra cash on family excursions, fun activities, and creating memories, which is fantastic. All I want is for him to be smiling as he does it. Suggestions? In Ohio, it’s not quite perfect.

DEAR NOT QUITE:

You will need to deal with your husband’s teeth because they are a turn-off. Tell him that even though you love him, you would find him more kissable if he took care of his teeth problem once he is at or close to his target weight. Inform him that delaying it could make the issue harder to resolve. He might get assistance from your family dentist or be sent to a reputable cosmetic dentist.

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