Dear Abby: I just found out my fiance is secretly bisexual or gay

Greetings, Abby

We have been engaged for a year, and I have been with the same man for three years. Despite my deep love for him, I recently found out over the phone that he has been having affairs with individuals he found online. I’ve seen some of his emails as well.

Does this imply that he is bi and hasn’t disclosed it to me? I am at a loss on what to do. Before I make a mistake, please help me. A FEELING OF LOVE HURTING

Greetings, Hurting

This indicates that your fiancé is either gay or bisexual. Tell him you are aware of what has been happening for both of you, since marriage vows won’t make him change if he is currently unfaithful. In order to find a trustworthy partner and for him to find a relationship where he can be himself, ask your doctor to test you for sexually transmitted diseases and then call off the wedding.

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