Greetings, Abby
For fifteen years, my spouse and I have been friends with another couple. Once or twice a week, we would get together, spending time at each other’s house and sometimes going out to dinner, where we took turns covering the expenses.
Our friends have ceased inviting us to their houses after we purchased our ideal home three years ago. We love their company and have invited them numerous times, but they no longer return the invitation. Additionally, they are less inclined to pay for our outings.
We once missed each other for three months. I was curious to find out how long it would take for them to get in touch. I gave in and invited them over since they never did. They gladly accepted the invitation, and we enjoyed ourselves as usual.
When they visit, we are eager to spend as much money as possible on food, drinks, and desserts, but this has become incredibly unfair. It has nothing to do with money; they make the same as we do. We had a good time together, but I’m getting really annoyed with them for not trying to be friendly. It truly upsets me that I am beginning to question whether they are truly friends and I should give up. Do you have any recommendations? LEFT THE FRIENDSHIP
Greetings, Moved:
You mentioned that before you moved away and improved your lifestyle, you and this couple lived in houses that were identical for more than ten years. Have you never considered the possibility that these friends may no longer welcome you to their house because they feel ashamed of the comparison? They can be envious as well.
Think about letting them know you always had a great time there and would like to go again. Then, pray that they will accept your offer and cross your fingers. You said that this couple earns the same as you do, yet it is foolish to take other people’s money into account.
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