Dear Abby: When do I tell dates I have cancer?

Greetings, Abby

I recently made the decision to reenter the dating scene after getting divorced. But I was given a multiple myeloma diagnosis five years ago. I’m doing well while undergoing treatment. How and when would I disclose my cancer diagnosis to a person I’m seeing? CALIFORNIA READY

DEAR READY:

When the connection starts to get romantic, that’s when you should disclose your medical diagnosis. Withholding that knowledge from someone who is emotionally investing in you would be dishonest.

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