Dear Annie: My husband’s hatred for our sons is cruel

To Annie, please:

My spouse and I have been wed for more than thirty years. Our two sons are in their early 20s and 30s, respectively. Gus, my husband, despises his sons with all of his heart. Gus’s refusal to interact with them ruined their childhood. Gus still ignores them or tries to offend them in any way he can.

I’ve reached the point where I can no longer stand it. My eldest has left home and established a prosperous life for himself. My youngest, who is still living at home, is fervently seeking a relationship with his father. Why would a man harbor such a deep hatred for his sons? Since he doesn’t believe this is an issue, my spouse will not attend counseling at all. Give me some advice, please. There’s not much more my heart can handle. Mom, I’m heartbroken.

To the Brokenhearted:

Your letter raises the subject of how Gus treats you in addition to how he treats your boys. I’m afraid we won’t be able to fully understand the underlying causes of your husband’s lack of love or paternal instinct until he cooperates and is willing to work on his relationships with his sons.

Make sure your sons, especially your youngest, know how much you love and support them instead than trying to make Gus be the father they need and probably failing them even more. To help you all begin to recover from this regrettable trauma and learn how to set boundaries that will shield you from Gus’ emotional abuse, I highly recommend counseling for both you and your children.

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